Reply To: the tip of the right index finger

[Judy Tsafrir]

Hi Babbie,

I took no offense whatsoever. Just curious and thank you again for sharing your thoughts. They were so interesting! For myself, I do not consider that part of myself that is boundary setting, saying NO, even fiercely, as an asshole. It feels to me like a mischaracterization of that function. Setting boundaries feels like a necessary honoring of myself, and not mean or rude, its good self-care. But I agree that that function is essential. I am a psychoanalyst and in my work with patients, it’s often an important topic in terms of relationships. I love the metaphor of the large intestine. Thank you again for the fascinating exchange!